Message Templates for Reaching Out to a Parent after a period of low or no contact

Here are sample messages and emails for various situations—whether you're reconnecting, asking questions, or sharing how you’ve been feeling. These templates are designed to help you express yourself clearly and empathetically.

1. Reconnecting After Time Apart

Subject Line: Thinking of You

Hi [Parent’s Name],

I know it’s been a while since we last talked, but I’ve been thinking about you and wanted to reach out. I hope you’re doing well. I’d love to catch up sometime if you’re open to it.

Take care,

[Your Name]

2. Expressing Your Feelings

Subject Line: Sharing How I Feel

Hi [Parent’s Name],

I wanted to share something that’s been on my mind. I’ve missed having you in my life and wanted to let you know that I’m open to reconnecting if you are. I know things haven’t been easy, but I’d like to try.

Please let me know if you’d like to talk.

Best,

[Your Name]

3. Asking Questions

Subject Line: A Few Questions for You

Hi [Parent’s Name],

I’ve been reflecting on some things and realized there’s so much I’d love to ask you. Would you be open to a conversation where I can learn more about you and hear your thoughts?

Let me know when you might have some time.

Looking forward to hearing from you,

[Your Name]

4. Sharing a Life Update

Subject Line: Wanted to Share Some News

Hi [Parent’s Name],

I wanted to reach out and share something exciting happening in my life: [briefly describe your update, such as a new job, school achievement, hobby, or other milestone].

I thought you might want to hear about it, and I’d love to hear what’s been going on with you, too, if you’d like to share.

Best regards,

[Your Name]

5. Inviting a Conversation

Subject Line: Can We Talk?

Hi [Parent’s Name],

I hope this message finds you well. I’d like to have a conversation with you sometime soon. I have some things I’d like to share and hear your thoughts on, too.

Please let me know when might be a good time to connect.

Warm regards,

[Your Name]

6. Apologizing and Opening the Door

Subject Line: I’d Like to Make Things Right

Hi [Parent’s Name],

I wanted to reach out to say I’m sorry for any pain or misunderstandings we’ve had in the past. I’d like to work on rebuilding our relationship if you’re open to it.

Please let me know if we can start fresh and talk soon.

With care,

[Your Name]

7. Offering Gratitude or a Memory

Subject Line: Thinking About [Shared Memory]

Hi [Parent’s Name],

I was thinking about [specific memory or event] and how much it meant to me. I wanted to thank you for that moment—it’s stayed with me all these years.

I hope we can create more memories like that in the future.

Take care,

[Your Name]

These templates can be customized to fit your tone and situation, offering a clear, gentle way to reach out to your parent while encouraging a response.